Didn't Get to Say Goodbye: My Unexpected Lesson in Letting Go Grief (and How You Can Too!) ✈️

Imagine this: You're halfway across the world, heart pounding with anticipation to see your dad after what feels like forever. But a cruel twist of fate, a travel nightmare called COVID, delays your reunion. By the time you finally land, it's two days too late.

Yes, my amazing Dad passed away in my home country Portugal just 2 DAYS before I could finally get there. The story of many during the pandemic.

The pain of losing a parent is unlike anything else. But what about when you can't even say goodbye?

This is my story, and it's not a sob fest (promise!) The grief was a tidal wave, threatening to drown me. It felt as if I was trapped in a suffocating prison. But instead of letting it win, I decided to turn my pain into a catalyst for growth. This post isn't just about me; it's for anyone who's ever felt the sting of loss.

As I went through the process of grieving, I realised that grief is not just about death, but it's about the feeling of incompleteness that comes with it. I came to understand that all emotional states are experienced within oneself. I can recall a time when I used to live with my dad, and sometimes I just needed a break, and disagreements or differences in opinion were a big deal. But after his passing, those points just evaporated and became smaller and smaller, leaving behind a plethora of love and good memories. And if all that remains is love, then why not feel complete?

Here's what I learned on how to feel complete again:

• Grief is a Teacher…

Denying it is like trying to conduct an orchestra with earmuffs on! We got to feel it, scream into pillows (glitter bombs optional), and talk about it until the raw emotions find release. It can show us the depth of love we hold, and the preciousness of life itself. 

• Don't Evict the Guest, Acknowledge It…

Grief is part of life, just like sunshine and rainy days. Don't try to force it out; let it flow through you.

• Death Transforms, Love Remains…

Your loved one's physical form might be gone, but their memory and impact live on. Carry them forward through volunteering, sharing stories, or pursuing a shared passion. I found meaning in carrying my father's optimism and entrepreneurial spirit forward by creating my own business.

• Celebrate, Don't Erase…

Tears and laughter can coexist! Celebrate your loved one's life, quirks and all. Let the beautiful memories sparkle alongside the sadness. I chose to celebrate my father's life, letting memories sparkle alongside tears. Life evidence that it works – we tell ourselves stories to live, so why not celebrate the sunsets of life?

• Grief is a Universal Language…

You're not alone. Grief is a language spoken by hearts across generations. Seek support, talk, and find solace in literature. Life isn't meant to be lived alone.

• Forgive and Find Peace…

Let go of the burden of unsaid words. Forgiveness is about releasing yourself, not condoning actions. It's about finding peace. A process, not a destination.

• Life is a Journey, Not a Problem…

Embrace the good days and bad, sunshine and storms. Feel it all, because life is not a problem to be solved but an experience to be felt.

• Discovering Happiness Within...

We may not all do great things, but we can all do small things with great love. Happiness lies in resilience, and in facing challenges with grace.

• Gratitude is the Fuel…

 Be thankful for the simple act of being alive, for connections, and for the chance to make a difference. It fuels compassion and inspires service.

This is just the beginning of my story. It's a story of grief, yes, but also of resilience, love, and finding the strength to move forward.

🌟 Join Me in Celebrating Life!

In love and gratitude.